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geckoSG
01-11-2008, 01:38 PM
Recently managed to get into another fling but was short-lived.
All thanks to a guy whom keep pestering my fling to go out, sent
brainless SMS daily to her asking why she didn't call him, why she
didn't sms him, keep pestering her to meet him, etc. Stressing her up.

Even when she replied him harshly and told him off not to msg her
again, he still continue to do it.

Why can't some guys learn when to stop when the lady says FARK
OFF?

For us, if a lady is comfy with you, she won't reject you. If she
rejects, and ask u to stop contacting her. For god sake, let go.

I really wish she could give me her number so that I can call the
guy and fark him upside down on the phone. Such guys are damn
immatured and so damn desperate and brainless.

Just venting my frustration here. Hope anyone that does that recently
or has been doing that will read this and realised to stop. Don't spoilt
the market, I'm sure a lot of seasoned samster will understand what
I mean... :mad:

Darkstorm
01-11-2008, 02:01 PM
Recently managed to get into another fling but was short-lived.
All thanks to a guy whom keep pestering my fling to go out, sent
brainless SMS daily to her asking why she didn't call him, why she
didn't sms him, keep pestering her to meet him, etc. Stressing her up.



Why was it short-lived?

geckoSG
01-11-2008, 02:16 PM
Shes now having phobia over guys tat try to get near to her,
some sort of stress symptom.

I can understand as I have a few friends who have that problem
before. They can still socialise in Office, but not after Office hours.

They just go back to their own world and for a period of time
will keep themselves clear of men, even those close to them.

Damn TuLan over the pestering bugger who dun know the meaning
of "STOP Messaging ME"

luv1299
01-11-2008, 02:29 PM
Can get her to change a new nos, may help.:)

geckoSG
01-11-2008, 02:37 PM
Its not that simple as in change of HP. Now its the mental barrier that
has already been placed up, she's not even replying my SMS when I offer
to help her end the irritant's pestering.

I really wish I could get my bloody hands on the guys mobile and FARK
him upside down. Not to be a hero, but to make sure tat SHE dun get
too stressed up tat I worry she will do something silly to herself.

She still have a young kid with a bloody useless Ex-Husband who keep
irritating her at her home with all the senseless nonsense. Hence, I worry
for herself and her child. :(

Base Star
01-11-2008, 04:50 PM
Stalking is not healthy and what has been described comes across to me as harassment. Maybe a call from the police would sort things up. Strongly recommended.

DO_YOU_BJ
01-11-2008, 04:54 PM
Its not that simple as in change of HP. Now its the mental barrier that
has already been placed up, she's not even replying my SMS when I offer
to help her end the irritant's pestering.

I really wish I could get my bloody hands on the guys mobile and FARK
him upside down. Not to be a hero, but to make sure tat SHE dun get
too stressed up tat I worry she will do something silly to herself.

She still have a young kid with a bloody useless Ex-Husband who keep
irritating her at her home with all the senseless nonsense. Hence, I worry
for herself and her child. :(

Bro, maybe that could be a scam to get you to be her front to tell the other guy to F off?
Maybe she did something to that guy that she will never tell you about?
Maybe if she cant take this kinda STRESS, like many who couldnt, maybe she shud get BAO and go back?
If one never hears 2 sides of the story, dun be harsh.....last thing you wanna be in a situation where 狗咬狗!

geckoSG
01-11-2008, 04:59 PM
Thanks for the advise, I get your point bro. I've seen the SMS that the guy
sent, but unfortunately, forgotten to note the number cos she wanted to
solve this by herself initially. :(

She is a kind lady by nature, she dun demand things from guys, just that
she is a nature man-magnet on the road due to her c-cup, sweet smile
and sexy dressing in town.

So some guys will try their luck all the way til it becomes harrassment. :mad:

DO_YOU_BJ
01-11-2008, 05:15 PM
Thanks for the advise, I get your point bro. I've seen the SMS that the guy
sent, but unfortunately, forgotten to note the number cos she wanted to
solve this by herself initially. :(

She is a kind lady by nature, she dun demand things from guys, just that
she is a nature man-magnet on the road due to her c-cup, sweet smile
and sexy dressing in town.

So some guys will try their luck all the way til it becomes harrassment. :mad:

Bro be very mindful of your intentions.
May be of good will, n for that I salute you
U r not a newbie so u know the rules of the game
unless she has quit this line, she aint never yours
worst, like i mentioned, using another person to solve an earlier prob she created
Yes, u saw the sms yes, but u dun know how it all happened do you????
My advise, be there emotionally but dun be there to fix anything before ur appearance in her life my friend

geckoSG
01-11-2008, 08:27 PM
Oh... maybe I post wrong place also, this lady is not an FL or WL or watever.
Just a nice lady I got to know and became my short-lived fling. She has a
decent job in town area...

Sorry for confusing the bros here... Paiseh, my bad. :o

DO_YOU_BJ
01-11-2008, 08:51 PM
Oh... maybe I post wrong place also, this lady is not an FL or WL or watever.
Just a nice lady I got to know and became my short-lived fling. She has a
decent job in town area...

Sorry for confusing the bros here... Paiseh, my bad. :o

Same above applies bro.

ekemono
01-11-2008, 09:18 PM
Unless she is your spouse or family members, it is better to let her solve it herself. If things turn ugly she can always go to the authority since she has the sms as proof. PPO is good enough to scare him off.

I understand it is a joy to help or protect someone we are interested in, but in such a case, your intention to screw him up over the phone may just add oil to fire and instigate the guy to do more. E.g: stalk her, write her ctc on public toilet, pass her ctc to dubious ppl to add to the disturbance.

So, til she is your spouse, you can only comfort and do small acts to cheer her up. It will also let you witness her capability to resolve her personal issue. Isn't it good?

longwinter
01-11-2008, 11:58 PM
l too dun like these kind of irriating guys. but sad to say, there will always be these people around. l think the word PESTS suits them well.

Even when the gals are totally uninterested in them, they still thick skin, hover around them, trying and pushing their luck, machiam like no sense of shame. :(

EtherC
02-11-2008, 01:35 AM
Territorial instincts at work TS. She's not exactly your exclusive pussy, so like you say its a short lived fling. Move on, you got your share. What's the point of getting pissed rite?

FL Lover
02-11-2008, 03:52 PM
Oh... maybe I post wrong place also, this lady is not an FL or WL or watever.
Just a nice lady I got to know and became my short-lived fling. She has a
decent job in town area...

Sorry for confusing the bros here... Paiseh, my bad. :o

Bro, dont make me laugh...Y do u need to get so pissed off abt that? Let me put it this way and you can think abt it...

1) Who is she to U? First of all, you already tell us that she is a short fling to u. Means she is nothing to you except a FB or someone to fulfill yor desire.

2) Are you her BF? NO? She does not belong to you exclusivly. As to what kind of relationships she had with others, you do not need to know.

3) Trying to be a hero in SG? U better think twice... Unless U R F..KING RICH, then stop being a hero... u never know who u r messing with. Let her solve her problems since she also does not want u to be involved. What makes you think she is not lying to u? What if she ask you to help her beat up the other guy? Are you going to do it? I believe you are a matured guy.. If needed, ask her to go to get some legal actions done.

Dont forget... HEROS DIE YOUNG.

geckoSG
02-11-2008, 04:55 PM
Thanks for all the comments people... Feel better now.

Agree with all the comments. She's not exclusively mine.

Just very upset tat we have such guys who does not know the limits.
Just hope that those guilty of such act, if they read this will stop wat
they are doing in terms of harrassment.

Unfortunately, even if reported to police, the police cannot do anything.
None of the messages are threathening the safety of the victim, so in
terms of law, nothing can be done.

I guess I'll leave her to handle it on her own and when she's over the crisis
and decided to continue, it would be a BONUS for me. Thanks people.

- END - :cool:

DO_YOU_BJ
02-11-2008, 05:10 PM
Good luck my friend.
Remember, 是你的,就是你的。不是你的,不要抢!

Cheers:D

jojogigi
02-11-2008, 05:34 PM
but alot of times for me is 是我的,我不要。 不是我的,我要抢!

DO_YOU_BJ
02-11-2008, 05:54 PM
but alot of times for me is 是我的,我不要。 不是我的,我要抢!

现在你知道你为什么所有的都不长久了吧!傻瓜!!!!

Darkstorm
02-11-2008, 07:22 PM
现在你知道你为什么所有的都不长久了吧!傻瓜!!!!

I have been reading some of your posts, and I must say, though I may not agree with your views all the time, I respect you, and I respect your knowledge and experience.

Toweli3
17-11-2008, 02:45 AM
Thanks for all the comments people... Feel better now.

Agree with all the comments. She's not exclusively mine.

Just very upset tat we have such guys who does not know the limits.
Just hope that those guilty of such act, if they read this will stop wat
they are doing in terms of harrassment.

Unfortunately, even if reported to police, the police cannot do anything.
None of the messages are threathening the safety of the victim, so in
terms of law, nothing can be done.

I guess I'll leave her to handle it on her own and when she's over the crisis
and decided to continue, it would be a BONUS for me. Thanks people.

- END - :cool:


Dude, i totally agree with you! i lost a couple of would-be good relationship thank to those spineless guys.

matter of fact, only recently i'm having trouble with this gal, whose struck between this guy whose going extreme to drive himself into her life despite how disinterested she is. (we're talking about stalking, gifts & doing totally lifeless stuff for her).

and guess what, she finally surcome to his pressure. i know if i put in abit more effort, she'll be mine instead. but i find it too pointless to actually go to extremes just for a date. RS is not about winning (her). it's about two person getting along well. & Being Spineless IS NOT WINNING OF HEART...IT's JUST PLAINLY DEGRADING YOURSELF FOR A GIRL.




ps. i dont believe that "what's your is yours", that sort of bullcrap. if fate is destinated than why bother getting education, working up your career and planning your life.

geckoSG
17-11-2008, 02:40 PM
Good news, managed to meet her today...

Heard tat the irritant has ceased the harrassment by alot, and good
thing is that she is not replying any of his msg, guess he got the point.

But she's still have tat phobia over men, will get her slowly to loosen
up and then we should be back again.

;)

DO_YOU_BJ
17-11-2008, 04:49 PM
But she's still have tat phobia over men, will get her slowly to loosen
up and then we should be back again. ;)

Ah...be the nice guy who helps her appreciate men again...hehehehe
Congrats bro...do keep us in the loop ya;)

wytt
20-11-2008, 12:14 AM
good luck.

geckoSG
20-11-2008, 12:49 PM
Thanks samsters

jasdude
20-11-2008, 12:59 PM
But she's still have tat phobia over men, will get her slowly to loosen
up and then we should be back again.

Be the friend to be there in her time of need and slowly progress from there . Bring her back to the light ! :D


Cheers!

69-king
24-11-2008, 12:37 AM
Shower her with care and concern sometimes....

BUT....

Don't make yourself seem that you're "Always" available might help too...

2 cents worth..:)

stardunlike
26-11-2008, 05:46 PM
fuck u la. it takes two hand to clap. U never know whaT HAPPEN FIRST when the guy been with her.... stupid guy

Dimculun
02-12-2008, 09:54 AM
i think you should be patient....it's about feeling correct ?
it's going to worse if u try 2 rushing...

just do what u can....and know ur limit....

one thing for sure..

just be yourself.... ok ?

Good Luck !

Have a Good 'UN

geckoSG
03-12-2008, 01:43 PM
fuck u la. it takes two hand to clap. U never know whaT HAPPEN FIRST when the guy been with her.... stupid guy

LOLz... The thing is, they have never met at all, the guy has been pushing
her for meetup and she rejected him, but he keep insisting to meet her saying
that if dun meet, how she knows how good he is... I've seen the sms before,
just that then, I did not see the number.

Anyway, that's over, we are dating again now less the intimacy part.

And of cos, I'm sure you will not be keen to fuck me. I'm straight. LOLz.

:p

69-king
03-12-2008, 06:34 PM
Prompt to adultery!!!!

Beware!...

But can be "fetish" too...hahaaha!

Cheers!

*Happy Bonking*

Wooden_Handle
04-12-2008, 02:14 AM
I would like to add if the guy/gal keep saying how good he/she is in look or whatever, you know the truth is..:)

LOLz... The thing is, they have never met at all, the guy has been pushing
her for meetup and she rejected him, but he keep insisting to meet her saying
that if dun meet, how she knows how good he is... I've seen the sms before,
just that then, I did not see the number.

Optimus_Prime
09-12-2008, 11:49 AM
this gal, whose struck between this guy whose going extreme to drive himself into her life despite how disinterested she is.

and guess what, she finally surcome to his pressure. i know if i put in abit more effort, she'll be mine instead. but i find it too pointless to actually go to extremes just for a date. RS is not about winning (her). it's about two person getting along well. & Being Spineless IS NOT WINNING OF HEART...IT's JUST PLAINLY DEGRADING YOURSELF FOR A GIRL.


Bro when u mention going to extremes by some guys, I totally agree with you.

Many eons ago, my very first KC got this guy who was so willingly to help her. He actually trafficed drugs across the borders. True or not, I will nvr know. But she was pressured to being with him becus of the tings he do. (This guy also has a sucidal tenacity of running in front of cars whenever she wanna break up w him)

I mean..... grow up lah. If she's yours, no one can take her way.
But not point forcing someone to be w you out of guilt or fear. :(

huanggua
09-12-2008, 12:06 PM
Believe not what you hear and only half of what you see

geckoSG
09-12-2008, 02:53 PM
I prefer to use the famous quote from cartoon show...

"More than Meets the Eye"

i00i
09-12-2008, 03:05 PM
Sometimes, it is very confusing. There are cases whereby the girls play hard to get, and when we give up by a straight 'no', the girls think we are not genuinely interested in her.

And there are cases whereby we decided to pursue to the end, only to make ourself look stupid and feel like an idiot. And also causing lots of discomfort over the girl's end.

There are no straight answers in this situation. Unless everyone can read everybody's mind, there will always be this sort of guy who will pursue to the very end. Or simply put.... the guy who just doesn't get it.

I sincerely hope the best for this girl that TS has mentioned, and hopefully everything works out fine.

huanggua
10-12-2008, 04:40 PM
I prefer to use the famous quote from cartoon show...

"More than Meets the Eye"

"I have no way and therefore need no eyes. I stumbled while I saw." - William Shakespear in King Lear.

geckoSG
11-12-2008, 07:11 PM
Wow, our samster have "ink" sia...

Latest update from my side, we are still in dating mood, with some
part of our lives in a mess, but we do enjoy the frequent breakfast
together spending time together...

Now, can hold hands and massage each other's hand to give comfort.
I hope by end of this year, hugging and kissing could come and then
back to the usual squirting and hard rocking sessions.

yingge
17-01-2009, 07:33 AM
Don't think its wrong for a person to go after wat he/she likes.
Just don't do crazy things.
I guess u willl do the same if u really like the thing/person.
Or .....

EtherC
17-01-2009, 02:29 PM
And that TS, is what we call 以退为进. By stepping back you gave her breathing space and a platform for the other guy to paint himself the picture of being a stalker. You have placed yourself on advantageous terrain and gained with points with the lady. Had you become more aggressive and sought that guy out, she'll be thinking how violently reactive you are as a person and become totally turned off.

量小非君子,无度不丈夫. 女人最爱大丈夫!

muguamugua
17-01-2009, 09:08 PM
Some gals like to b stalk, some don't loh.

BlurWolfe
17-01-2009, 11:26 PM
May be the stalker learn from the new saying:

量小非君子,无毒不丈夫



量小非君子,无度不丈夫

geckoSG
19-01-2009, 01:23 PM
wow... the bros here are really fun of ink... mood come, all the chim chim
poets all appear... :D

Anyway, latest update is that we haven't met for quite a while since my
work has problem and she has also encountered money issues...

I do foresee that we may just end things this way... sad but live goes on...

:o